How to Flirt with a Lady Over Text (Without Looking Desperate)

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You type.

You delete.

You try again.

Then you stare at your phone wondering if “Hey, how was your day?” is flirty… or just bland.

Flirting over text doesn’t have to be awkward.

In fact, done right, it can be your secret weapon.

It’s not about being slick—it’s about being playful, confident, and just mysterious enough to make her want more.

1. Skip the Boring Stuff

If your opener is “hey” or “what’s up,” she’s already bored. Flirting starts with being different. Reference something personal, funny, or totally random:

“That playlist you posted? 100% chaos. I respect it.”

2. Ask Playful Questions

Questions keep the convo flowing—but flirty questions? That’s where the spark lives.

“Would you rather win $10,000 or go on a date with me (and win emotionally)?”

It’s cocky, it’s fun, and it gives her room to tease you back.

3. Tease, Don’t Try Too Hard

A little sarcasm goes a long way. Just make sure it’s playful, not insulting:

“You seem like the type who insists pineapple belongs on pizza. Am I wrong?”

Let her know you’re paying attention—but not putting her on a pedestal.

4. Don’t Send Novels

Keep your texts tight.

If you’re sending essays while she’s replying with emojis, you’ve already flipped the dynamic the wrong way. Flirting should feel like ping pong, not a monologue.

5. Create Mystery

Flirting is tension.

Tension needs space. If she’s enjoying the convo, don’t overstay. Leave her smiling and wondering what you’ll say next.

“You’re fun. But I’ll let you get back to pretending to be productive.”

The Secret Sauce? Let Her Chase You

The biggest mistake guys make?

Trying to win her over. The moment she feels like she’s the prize, she tunes out. Want her to lean in? Flip the script.

That’s what the Pursuit Reversal method is all about—triggering her curiosity, her competitive instincts, and yes, her desire.

Because when she’s the one thinking about you... texting you first... wondering what you’re up to—that’s when the game changes.

With love,
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